I have very strong feelings when it comes to gender discrimination. I’m usually telling people off whenever I come across discussions pertaining to women belonging to the inferior catgory and what not. One of my colleague sometimes counsels students by saying This is not America. While it is true that THIS really is not America, I find it hard to maintain perspective when he says that men can do anything they want because they can. And women cant. Thats the law of society and thats just how it is. So quit with the behaviour-influenced-by-western-culture. Understand?
He’s right, I know. Our culture and society favour men. We, the women are the weaker gender and even though so many issues have been raised regarding the equality of women, the gender debate is far from over.
I, personally dont think that women are any less capable compared to men. If I were a man, I’d be able to afford a wife (who wouldnt need to work) and raise children comfortably. I’d also rather punch the daylights out of all chauvinists but thats just how I feel.
So, it was a shock, a major one at that - when I discovered a woman standing with a measurement strip wound around her neck at a local tailor’s shop yesterday. I tried my best not to stare at her, closed my mouth and proceeded towards the tumultuous ordeal of talking business to her.
(After staring at the lady for a long time)
Me: Erm… where’s the other man who used to work here?
She: (Frostily) That guy left the shop ages back. He doesnt work here anymore.
(Desperately trying to figure if she would screw my dress because whoever’s heard of a female tailor??? Certainly not the pseudo-feminist that I was)
Me: Umm… It’s been years since I’ve visited your shop. Thats why I was looking for that other guy… (Attempting at something that probably does not even resemble a smile)
She: (Smiling back) Oh, thats all right. I’ve been working here for the past 4 years now.
(Sigh of relief as I exhale audibly. If she’s been working for 4 years, my clothes are in safe hands, I figure)
Me: Oh! I just didnt know that you’re working here. Okay. No problem.
As I left the shop, I thought to myself - how ironic is it that I berate others for gender discrimination when I, as a woman, did exactly that just now.
It is doubly hard to change the world unless you can change yourself. Isnt it?
he he … in a lighter note, nice to see someone finally admitting
though, on a serious note, i dont think expecting ur tailor / driver to be a guy is pseudo feminism. is feminism really abt equality between men and women? men and women are ‘Different’ and will be different … they r meant to be. same with those who talk abt reservation for women. let everybody do whatever they r gud at
btw … to clear myself being called an MCP, lemme say that any feminist who speaks abt equal rights and respect for everybody, strictly based on merit, irrespective of gender, cast and other dividers … am with them
equal rights and respect for everybody, strictly based on merit, irrespective of gender, cast and other dividers
Yep, me too agree with this statement. Nice to hear your views.
About your question: Is feminism really about equality between men and women? I guess it is. Plus, the younger generation’s not all that stuck up regarding gender divide. I feel its the older people who segregate people according to their gender.
I do know who you are talking about.ha ha. and I feel exactly the way you do.
I think the definition of feminism has changed over the time. When I read about the old feminist movement, I wonder was it for real, but then if it was not for those pioneers maybe our outlook would not have been so laid back. And we females would not be where we are now.
The colleague or the tailor?
Yep. The definition of feminism indeed has changed. Imagine not being able to vote! I’m happy to be born in the 21st century cause if I had been in some other era back then, I KNOW I would be burnt to the stake by conveniently being declared as a witch.
the colleague of course ha ha. A witch, now why would you think so
Marcha hola ni, chal payo bhane
Cause I’m usually smart mouthing, being argumentative and appearing aggressive to others. The works.
I get scared whenever I see men at hair salons! How do I convince myself that someone who has not more than an inch of hair on his head will be able to handle the complex project that is a haircut for a gal?
I guess it’s more of a stereotype rather than gender discrimination.
And yes, I am back
She’s backkkk!!!!!!! Missed you, girl
Come to think of it, its a stereotype, for sure. But I felt a lil ashamed of myself so I thought arent I discriminating here?
P.S. I almost stopped believing in Arnold but nice to have you back!
Heh yeah happens to me sometimes. I was accused of being psuedo feminist when I did not support Hillary for presidency, but supporting someone just because one is a woman and not because she is merited is again psuedo feminism no? Anyway argument was between a good friend but yeah we get too carried away with gender discrimination sometimes its best to treat people as people (irrespective of gender etc)!
Ok reading other comments looks like I have said the same things, I am going to submit anyway
I initially supported Hillary but then had the exact same views like you did.
I think one should look beyond the shackles of gender to accurately estimate the capability of a person. That is, starting from me, of course.
I don’t believe in equality of men and women.
Women have some qualities which make them better for a job than men are… like bargaining!
Hahaha… its unavoidable. I blame the inflation-friendly shop keepers
Damn. This word takes me back to that whole existence about Pseudo world! Remember premature joculation!!! LOL.
Where were you all this time???
Missed you, keti. And all the hysterical laughter